left my girl because she couldnt cure mymind

Attempts to begin dating again, to be in a new relationship, still leave you finding yourself unable to disconnect. Even in a state of no contact for months, perhaps over a year… sometimes your connection to a person who was emotionally available, good to you and loved you, just won’t fade away.

Life is tinted in winter hues and life is not moving on. Losing them is all we can think of and we fail to see that we have also lost ourselves. When this moment is related to screwing up our relationship with another, we often can’t see what we have also done to ourselves, because we are so focused on the other person. It also highlights our fears, insecurities, and inability to be honest – with both ourselves and others. It a sign we are disconnected with who we are and where we are going in life right now. The whole sabotage thing is a red flag that we are not in tune with ourselves and our needs. How and why we self-sabotage – the reasons are endless. Was it about money – did you make more or did they make less? Did this make you feel threatened, unworthy, or guilty? Half in/half out of another relationship they didn’t know about? Were you wanting to commit but at the time, not feeling ready to give up/compromise your freedom or the lifestyle you had? The first step is to ask yourself “ WHY?”ĭid you not feel good enough/worthy of this person and because of that, did you feel insecure and do things to sabotage your relationship?ĭid being intimate scare you and make you push them away? It is often at this point you question yourself, and think that this person you lost, has left a hole in your life that can never be filled.Īs you begin to emotionally process your role in the breakup, you slowly come to the painful realization that you self-sabotaged yourself and this relationship. You feel heavy with guilt, and regret lives in your gut. Where you find yourself thinking of someone every day. There are also times when this doesn’t happen. The pain subsides, and you reflect on the lessons you learned and seek new love. A time when moving on begins and life slowly becomes happier. There is pain on both sides when a breakup occurs. Losing the love of your life and actually realizing it can take some time to surface. The one who was there for you, loved you, and did the “thick and thin” thing because they believed in you. It can also slash our hearts to shreds, leaving painful emotions seeping out for a long time to come.Īnd one of the most painful places to be in is the one where you feel regret, guilt, and pain for losing someone you see as too much of a loss to recover from. It can make us feel so uniquely connected to the world and fill our hearts so they are overflowing. Losing the love of your life makes you realize that love can truly be a double-edged sword.

Left my girl because she couldnt cure mymind